Knowing how to forgive is not so simple, but it is something necessary for both one and the other. Much more if you are part of a couple, in which freedom, respect and mutual communication must reign.
Learn to forgive the other
When one acts and forgives, one is creating liberation in two directions. On the one hand, for the person who made the mistake it will be a liberation to know that the other has forgiven him. And for those who forgive, he will release that pain that he has inside, and that if he does not do it, it will end up generating some kind of future situation or discomfort.
For many people, forgiveness means going back, stirring up the past a bit and exposing yourself to being hurt again. In addition, behind that pain there is a feeling of revenge in wanting the other to “pay” for what he has done or that he does not deserve our forgiveness.
What you do not know is that forgiveness becomes a selfish action because it is not something we do for the other, we do it for ourselves. And of course, those who know how to forgive raise their emotional intelligence to the maximum.
How to learn to forgive
The first thing you have to know is that forgiveness is a decision that will free you from all the anger and resentment that is inside you.
Avoid falling into resentment
To take the first step, you have to understand what has happened and that if you don’t release it, it will have negative effects on your emotions and your general health.
Take responsibility for your emotions
Once you have seen everything behind, understand that you are the only one responsible for your emotions. You have a duty to do something about it to transform all that negative experience into a moment of learning and advancement in your life. Be resilient.
have a forgiving attitude
It is not enough to tell yourself that you want to forgive, you have to be willing to really do it, with total sincerity. Sometimes we deceive ourselves and say yes, we want to remove that wound but we do it superficially. Remember that forgiving is not done only with words but must be done with the heart and later demonstrated with actions.
This act as intimate as forgiveness is, will give you peace and you will see how it allows you to live absolutely fully and full of happiness.