Although it may seem a bit strange, there are people who do not know how to let themselves be loved. It is much easier to love another than to let yourself be loved. When we let ourselves be loved, we are opening a new world and that can make us feel completely vulnerable. But inevitably life is about giving and receiving. So if you find yourself in this situation, you must learn to let yourself be loved so that your partner or future partner works.
Why don’t we let ourselves be loved?
A person who allows himself to be loved, receives it when love comes into his life. He doesn’t ask many questions. However, who does not know how to let himself be loved, what he does is feel uncomfortable in any situation of affection. One could almost say that there is something that bothers or irritates him at some point.
Generally behind this type of action or conduct there is a duel that has not been finished. It has a lot to do with partners from the past, with the suffering experienced or even with situations in the family itself that have left them in a completely vulnerable place.
There are many cases in which the root of the matter stems from a childhood experience that has become somewhat traumatic. People who experienced abandonment, affective problems or abuse.
Signs that you do not let yourself be loved
Some very clear signs that a person does not let himself be loved are the following:
• The moment love appears, fear is activated.
• Not knowing what to do when an expression of love appears.
• If someone is interested in you, there is some kind of threat.
• Often responds with aggressive words to displays of affection.
• Love and expressions of affection seem like a farce to him.
• Rejection of people who show interest.
• Being open to love sees it as something weak or vulnerable.
• Demonstrations of affection are suspicious.
What to do to allow yourself to love yourself?
Identifying that it is something that happens to you is already taking a big step. From there it is about starting to work on self-love, loving oneself and then allowing others to love us. Seek professional help and start with small actions such as pampering the body, caressing it and knowing each other in its entirety. You will see how by removing all those fears, relaxing and opening your heart, everything flows and you enjoy how beautiful it is to let yourself be loved.
